Separated for 9mos...did I cheat?

I think that you were right about her having an affair that she would go months without a phone call to you. My ex husband did the same thing and it didn't take me that long to figure it out. Everyone has a gut instinct about things like that. I think that it is about time for you to move on with your life I did. I waited months before I started dating other people and when I finally met someone who I felt was worthy of me I called my now ex and told him I met someone and I was going to date him and see where it went. Move on and don't worry about what she thinks cause believe me I didn't wait on my ex to give me an answer and still don't care what he thinks.